How to Give and Receive a Lei
A lei can be a symbol of love, friendship, respect,
appreciation, or accomplishment. They are traditionally
worn to celebrate graduations, weddings, birthdays,
anniversaries, mother's day, father's day, the Lei Day
holiday, and many other special occasions. It is also
traditional to present a lei to a person who is arriving in or
How to Give a Lei
A lei is traditionally presented to another person by placing it
around their neck and giving them a kiss on the cheek.
Some say a more traditional and respectful way to present a
lei is for the giver to to bow slightly and raise the
lei in front of themselves, at about heart level, letting the
other person take the lei and place it around their own neck.
In modern times it is more common for the giver to place the lei
around the recipient's neck along with a kiss.
Note that it is considered bad luck to wear a lei you plan to give to someone
else or for a pregnant woman to wear a closed a lei. Any lei
can be made open and pregnant women should always wear an open lei.
How to Receive a Lei
It is disrespectful to decline a lei if one is offered to you.
If you are allergic to any of the lei materials, or if you are
not in a position to wear a lei that is presented (for example
if you are playing amusical instrument) the lei should be put
in a place of honor to show respect for the giver.
A lei can be worn for any occasion or no occasion and it is
fine for you to purchase your own lei.
How to Wear a Lei
A closed lei should be worn on the shoulders
with half of it hanging in the front
and half hanging in the back. An open lei
is a lei with the ends left untied. An open
lei should be centered on the back of the neck
and worn with the ends hanging down the front.
It is fine to wear more then one lei at a time. Graduating
scholars often wear so many lei they can hardly see
above them. If a lei has a ribbon it can be worn at the back
of the neck or it can be won on the right side (if single) or
on the left side (if married or unavailable). At graduation ceremonies
sometimes the bow is moved from one side to the other
along with the tassle of the graduation cap.
How to Store a Lei
To store a fresh flower lei, mist it gently with
water, place it loosely in a plastic bag, and store
it in the vegetable crisper section of the refrigerator.
If a lei is stored in the main refrigerator compartment
it can get too cold and the flowers can become damaged.
How to Dispose of a Lei
A lei is traditionally disposed of by returning it to the earth.
It is considered disrespectful to throw a lei in the trash.
Remove the string from the lei so wildlife will not become entangled in it
and either scatter, bury, or burn the flowers or toss them into the sea
or other body of water.
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